"We are not always masters of the unfolding of our lives, but we can always be masters of the meaning we give them."
How does one deal with a life one did not choose? Reading Jacques Philippe's masterful Interior Freedom is a good place to start, especially his chapter titled "Consenting to the Life You Did Not Choose."
"The highest and most fruitful form of human freedom is found in accepting, even more than in dominating. We show the greatness of our freedom when we transform reality, but still more when we accept it trustingly as it is given to us day after day."
This is a book that should be read slowly, reflectively and more than once. Interior Freedom is illuminating by itself, but when followed by Trustful Surrender to Divine Providence and Self-Abandonment to Divine Providence, one has the the ingredients for a proper realism in life. Take these three books and get away for a week-long silent retreat and see if you don't agree.